THERAPY TO COPE BETTER
A central paradox of modern life is that we have more choice than ever before, but with those choices often come stress and personal angst. My aim is to work with you to provide the help and guidance you need to cope with those pressures and to achieve lasting success and happiness.
I believe that genuine self-knowledge – achieved through engagement in a mentoring relationship that takes into account all your needs, as well as a deep understanding of our basic natures – can radically transform your life for the better.
The way forward is multi-layered. It requires first of all an accurate audit of your current position, followed by empathic and focused work to establish the root of problems and achieve transformation. The goal is a work-life balance that allows enjoyment of life - and your abilities and relationships - to the full.
I work within established guidelines of psychotherapy and am a member of the regulatory body BACP
DO I NEED THERAPY?
For more than a century, techniques of psychotherapy and stress management have been helping people to deal with many of life’s problems.
The list includes everything from anxiety of all kinds, through relationship breakdown, loss of loved ones or friends, through to lack of self-esteem, or problems at work, through to depression, addictions, phobias and compulsive behaviour.
Almost anyone can benefit because the process is aimed at creating greater self-awareness and understanding. We take courses on how to operate a computer or drive a car – so why not in how to understand how we think and function as human beings?
Everyone’s journey is different. My aim is not to prescribe what you do, or even how you do it, but to make that journey as rewarding and fulfilling as it can be.
Almost certainly, if you have current stress and unhappiness in your life, achieving satisfaction will require change. This takes courage and application. My goal is to be with you and help you every step of the way.
My approach recognises that this change is a gradual and careful process. To facilitate it, you need someone who acts at all times safely and empathically as a teacher, guide, caring companion – and safety valve.
Therapy helps generate enlightenment and empowerment, both for yourself and those that you love.
I believe it helps if you have some knowledge of my background.
I was born in Wakefield West Yorkshire, and grew with mum, dad, two sisters and a brother. I went to the local grammar school and then to Cambridge University.
My career has spanned journalism, public relations and business development at boardroom level. I have set up and run a wide variety of enterprises in the media sector.
In my life, I have also had problems, including difficult family relationships, stressful working environments, and addiction. Therapy with skilled practitioners helped me hugely and led me to want to practise myself.
I studied to become a psychotherapist at Regents University in London and have now been in practice for six years.
Through my personal journey, I thus have an expert understanding of human problems and dilemmas. I am now working, using latest academic knowledge and insights, to help facilitate change for the better in other people’s lives.
My way of working is always tailored to my clients’ needs.
I follow the principles of psychotherapy, which involve regular weekly 50-minute sessions, but also can work on a much more flexible mentoring basis for clients whom I feel this will benefit. Some of the process needs to be face-to-face – and indeed is best if it is – but some sessions can be via Skype if work schedules do not permit attendance.
Underpinning everything is my understanding of attachment, the science of human development, which in the last decade has undergone revolutionary advances in explaining our basic needs and behaviour.
Attachment science shows that we are shaped considerably by the care we receive in the early years of our life. If children receive good enough care they usually grow up to be happy and contented adults capable of dealing with stress and other life problems. If they do not, that is often the basis of subsequent feelings of anxiety, lack of self-esteem and dissatisfaction.
In a nutshell we now understand that how we are today is the result of how we were brought up, and what kind of care we received as children. Reaching an understanding of the issues involved through gentle, careful exploration helps to re-write our outlook so that we can cope better.
This is not me telling you what to do.
Coming to therapy may seem daunting, and some respects it is, because it requires honesty, effort and engagement. But it is also about exploring and finding out about yourself. My aim is to make that process as illuminating, rewarding and stimulating as possible.
I will generally start with gently probing questions about what is on your mind as you embark on the therapy and we will gradually explore the factors that have led to what you are today: about your family, your parents, your work, your education, your friendships and your concerns.
There is no set formula, it is about gradually building a picture and a relationship with me that allowsus to look at your life and what has shaped you in new ways so that new insight and understanding can be created.
Every client has different needs and every approach is different.
“David is both a sensitive and gentle psychotherapist with a wide range of therapeutic trainings and a 'real life' experience of working in the Courts and in the media. The latter enables him to empathise with what his clients have to face in their lives whilst his different therapeutic skills provide him with a variety of approaches in guiding them through their therapeutic journey.
“As someone who has worked with David in studying the importance of attachment and trauma in understanding his clients' difficulties and suffering, I have come to admire him for his real dedication to their well being: he is a therapist who has the gift of making his clients feel safe and understood.”
Dr Felicity de Zulueta, Emeritus Consultant Psychiatrist in Psychotherapy at the SLaM NHS Foundation Trust and Hon. Senior Lecturer in Traumatic Studies at KCL
"I have known David as first a colleague and then a close friend for over 25 years. He is a man of huge intelligence which he wears lightly. He has also has a broad experience of life - as a journalist, senior executive, magistrate and carer. He has a deep capacity for empathy. He is able to bring all these aspects of a very rounded background into his practice.
He is a man whose judgement I would trust and someone I would turn to in a crisis. He also has an engaging ability to identify what is truly important in life and look past immediate crises to what lies beyond."
Paul Vickers, former Secretary and Group Legal Director, Trinity Mirror PLC, and now company lawyer, Daily Telegraph.